“The Joy is in the journey itself”… musings from a novice part 3
“Life Happens … a Chess Hiatus”
As this narrative continues, a common theme seen in most
adult chess players is that life inevitably happens along the way. No exception
here, at that time in the late 1980’s I had three small kids and a wife who
needed me home on the weekends instead of chasing a rating. I stopped playing
for a few years. A lot of things had happened too. I was trying to get my
career going in a state (
I did re-marry someone ( a little
too soon after the first) and we had a child. I took a relocation package from
The chess board was calling to me again. I found my way to the Worcester Chess club ( in West Boylston) where I met Geoff Polizoti and actually won a game with him before he became John Curdo’s Stepson. That will probably be the last time I won him too since he was rocketing up the ratings ladder.
I started an elementary school team at my kids school. I got some sets from MACA. Once a week I would give an introductory 15 minute lesson followed by a club ladder game. I printed up a weekly newsletter with the ladder results. These kids were eager to see who was at the top.
I took a group of them to their first tournaments. Stephen Dahn was the director at the Cavendish club tournaments. Entering the room, you were greeted by a knight in armor. It was great décor for a chess event. My boys won some books and I lost some rating points. I really didn’t mind, the kids were having fun.
Then life happened again. My second wife abandoned us to
chase an old flame back in
It was the later half of the 1990’s and I started seeing this woman who also had three kids. Her son was interested in chess and so was her nephew. I showed them some of the things I taught my kids. I didn’t push on them and I let them discover the game with gentle coaching from the side.
I went to school during this period to finish an engineering degree and start a post graduate degree. I realized securing a better financial future for the family was more more important than chess. <sigh> Being responsible took precedence over loosing more rating points.